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All that happens is you just won't go out with them, which is already happening anyway. He seemed like an awesome match for an Internet-obsessed nerd girl with weird pets.Herbenick adds, “I think it’s more often when people step out of their gender roles—such as when women don’t just settle for nonverbal initiation but walk up to a man and ask him out—is when things get tricky in many (but fortunately not all) instances.” In my middle-school case, I don’t think that Natural Sciences Boy rejected me because I was the one to initiate; I think he wouldn’t have been interested no matter what, because that’s the fate of 13-year-old nerd girls.
But even with less traditional guys, everything seems to go better if I cede the stereotypical initiation role—if I focus more on looking cute, batting my eyelashes, not seeming too interested, and smiling really widely.Relationship expert Dr Christie Hartman points out that many relationships start with subtle cues from the women.But men aren't great at picking up subtly, so just go for it! Even though at one point I was scared to go on dates because I thought there was a 90 percent chance I'd end up covered in pig's blood, in reality that happens, like, 2 percent of the time.A new survey of over 2,000 female participants between the ages of 18 and 40 by pharmaceutical company Merck found that less than 1 in 10 women make the first move. Well, as Sean Donnelly wrote in Elite Daily: "Maybe you stick to the old-fashioned route; maybe you are scared of rejection; maybe you simply do not know how to approach a man. We, too, hate rejection and embarrassment, and some of us have no clue how to approach women."Now, I'm not wild with saying "welcome to man's world", implying god, it's so hard to be a man and have everyone take what you say seriously and let you take up as much physical and emotional space as you want in this world all the time. It's unfair that in the old-fashioned (and still too current) hetero dating world it's all on them to take the initiative.
In fact it was sort of a rule— I was shamelessly, enthusiastically flirty (or at least I was in my head), but would never actually go for it. With the huge success of Bumble, a Tinder-like dating app where women have to message their match first, aren't we at a point where more women should be comfortable making the first move?
Don’t get me wrong—I like it when guys ask me out; I really don’t ever want to be in a position where I’m taking all the sexual initiative—but I often find that I start the conversation, offer my number or ask for his, suggest dinner, suggest that we go home together, etc. ♦◊♦ Part of the problem may be that straightforward women are often seen as “sluts.” In the blunt words of Derek L., cofounder of a San Francisco–based company called Social Savant that claims to help men improve their romantic lives: “I’m not surprised that women don’t make the first move. There’s judgment from their girlfriends (‘Oh my God, she’s such a slut to hit on that guy’).